Wasps, what is the point of a wasp? It has no purpose in life but to sting humans and f*ck everything up. A wasp doesn't create honey or pollinate like a bee. It is born, creates baby wasps, stings someone then dies. No purpose but to f*ck things up and die or breed so the species can f*ck more things up, sting someone and die.
Thursday, 21 April 2011
Wasps - do they have a meaning of life?
I have just been stung by a wasp and it has led me to ponder the meaning of a wasps life.
Wednesday, 20 April 2011
Granddad's Memorial
I had meant to post this the other day but forgot.
This past Sunday we (my parents and I) made a small memorial where my late grandfathers ashes were scattered. My grandfather passed away the 17/12/2010 and on the 9/1/2011 we scattered him on Gelligaer Common above the village of Trelewis, where he grew up. It was a nice pleasant spot overlooking the various surrounding villages and also the cemetery where his parents are buried. It was my grandmothers wish that he be scattered and be 'free like the wind'. A wish that she too has asked for herself.
We wanted to place a small memorial for him on the common land so that we have a place to pay our respects. He was cremated and it was grandma's wish for him not to be interred or kept in an urn and otherwise we would have nowhere to grieve or pay our respects. At least now we have a small little area where we can spend a few minutes or hours undisturbed and feel his presence all around us.
The weather was beautiful on Sunday so after lunch we seized the opportunity to put the little plaque we had made on the common land. It was sad to go back there, when we scattered my grandfathers ashes it was the moment that it struck me that he was gone. The man I doted on for 21 years was lost to me forever, being carried away with the wind. I was fine apart from the initial tears when I was told of his passing, the funeral hadn't upset me too much. I was cut up inside but I keep my feelings locked away and rarely show them. But scattering him it hit me like a freight train. I cried and cried all the way home.
I miss him so much and have so many regrets like not seeing him the day before he passed away, I said to my parents I would give it a miss and go up the following day. Even on that day I wish we left the house sooner. The day was horrible and we had heavy snow, I just wish we had left half hour earlier at least then he wouldn't have died on his own. I never said goodbye to my grandfather and that will haunt me for the rest of my life. I love him so much, he's my hero. I just wish I could cuddle him, kiss him and hear him say my name once more.
Here is the little memorial we placed for him and the area where we scattered him.
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| Our memorial |
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| Close up of the plaque |
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| Area where we scattered Granddad |
In helping others we help ourselves
This is a reflective blog. I was linked to a friends new website and was reading a passage she added to her site and it got me thinking. So I have decided to blog on the subject. I find the later the time the better I blog so apologies if this doesn't make complete sense.
Her website is a recently made site where visitors are urged to share their feelings. A place where if you have a problem or issue you wish to discuss you just type it out and someone will read it. As the old saying goes 'a problem shared is a problem halved'. I think this is an awesome idea for a website, often there are times when I know I personally have issues that I find unable to share with others due to being s private person or when the issue arises nobody I trust enough is online so I keep it bottled up and let it fester until it either gets sorted or becomes insignificant.
Online I feel most people are more comfortable sharing intimate details about themselves to anonymous users. You are hidden behind a keyboard and behind a screen name, it takes the stress away and allows you to open up. This idea for a site is great, I'm sure I will use it at some point down the line.
It is a fresh and nice looking site. Clear menu, simple navigation. Really good effort for a starting point. It could evolve into something bigger once it beds in and people visit and use the site. The web address for it is: shareitw.weekly.com
Back to my main point, I was reading the first post on the site by the creator, Bea, and it got me thinking. Her post was about how people should treat others and the very last phrase is what caught my eye, along the lines of 'in'helping others we are helping ourselves'.
That is a very true statement. Being an only child I have often had a selfish 'me me me' outlook on things, I have been fortunate that more often than not what I want I have. I am in a position that I have never wanted for anything. I have a happy family, clean clothes, fresh food, sanitation and every gadget under the sun, lots I don't want or need.
Some people aren't as fortunate as me, yet in my selfishness I would put my needs first and well wouldn't really think about anyone else as long as I got what I wanted. My view on this has changed recently due to the Japanese earthquake and subsequent tsunami and helping out in a charity shop for a family member.
I have so much in life that I take for granted, my life is a walk in the park. I live at home with my parents and I pay zero rent, keep, nothing. My only outgoing bill is my mobile phone bill,which has rarely been under three figures (what love does to someone). I never used to stop and think about those less fortunate than I, how do people without a family cope? No house to stay? No certainty of food for the day?
While watching the news and seeing the devastation in Japan, I was upset at the sights I saw and the realisation that a day earlier they had everything, houses, luxuries and happy lives. Now they have nothing, all taken away by the forces of nature. It shook me a little with the realisation that we have no idea what can happen tomorrow. I scanned my room and I have a TV, PS3, Xbox 360, PC, Laptop, 4 iPods, iPad, Sony Reader, about 100 DVDs and 70video games. I would be devastated to lose any of them, a worry to me is to
Here's me worrying about being first in queue for a new release and across the World people who have real worries. It really opened my eyes to the World, to the point that the £40 I had ready to waste on another game I donated to help with the relief effort. Someone else could benefit more from it than me, why waste it on a piece of plastic that will collect dust in a month. I also emptied my online Playstation Network wallet and donated all my gaming funds to the relief effort. Better use for it than wasting it on some download content I won't use.
Since then I have been thinking about issues closer to home like the beggar on the street we all look down on, giving him a few coins. Perhaps it will be spent on drink or drugs but he could be genuine and use the money for himself, a little food or drink. Even the sandwich you are too full to eat that you will throw in the rubbish, why not give it to someone for whom it could be their first bit of food for many days. We are fortunate to not be in his position and living a lonely life where everyone looks down on you like a piece of dirt on the soles of their shoes. If I was in his position I would like to think people would take pity on me and give me some spare change or a little nourishment out of the kindness of their heart and the often lacking human nature of helping your fellow man.
It is common decency to help out our fellow person if we can, something insignificant to us can mean a lot to someone else, whether it be helping an elderly person with a heavy bag of shopping, holding a door open or paying a compliment. It is the simple things that make the most difference, simple and free things which everyone should be doing without thinking.
So next time you see a beggar, someone struggling with their groceries, stop and think if they could use a hand or a few coins from your pocket. You could be making someone's day.
As the phrase went 'in helping others we are helping ourselves' and we are, we become better people for it. It brings a sense of joy that you have helped someone no matter how small. You did something, yes it may be a slight inconvenience given that today everyone is on the go and nobody. Has time for anyone but one day that could easily be you as events that happen more and more regularly go to show. Don't take your life and what you own for granted, one day it can all disappear before you know it.
The time you expect others to help you get back on your feet you may discover a deafening silence. What goes around comes around. If you never help anyone less fortunate, why should you expect help when you need it.
In helping others we help ourselves, never a more truer word spoken.
Thanks for reading.
Her website is a recently made site where visitors are urged to share their feelings. A place where if you have a problem or issue you wish to discuss you just type it out and someone will read it. As the old saying goes 'a problem shared is a problem halved'. I think this is an awesome idea for a website, often there are times when I know I personally have issues that I find unable to share with others due to being s private person or when the issue arises nobody I trust enough is online so I keep it bottled up and let it fester until it either gets sorted or becomes insignificant.
Online I feel most people are more comfortable sharing intimate details about themselves to anonymous users. You are hidden behind a keyboard and behind a screen name, it takes the stress away and allows you to open up. This idea for a site is great, I'm sure I will use it at some point down the line.
It is a fresh and nice looking site. Clear menu, simple navigation. Really good effort for a starting point. It could evolve into something bigger once it beds in and people visit and use the site. The web address for it is: shareitw.weekly.com
Back to my main point, I was reading the first post on the site by the creator, Bea, and it got me thinking. Her post was about how people should treat others and the very last phrase is what caught my eye, along the lines of 'in'helping others we are helping ourselves'.
That is a very true statement. Being an only child I have often had a selfish 'me me me' outlook on things, I have been fortunate that more often than not what I want I have. I am in a position that I have never wanted for anything. I have a happy family, clean clothes, fresh food, sanitation and every gadget under the sun, lots I don't want or need.
Some people aren't as fortunate as me, yet in my selfishness I would put my needs first and well wouldn't really think about anyone else as long as I got what I wanted. My view on this has changed recently due to the Japanese earthquake and subsequent tsunami and helping out in a charity shop for a family member.
I have so much in life that I take for granted, my life is a walk in the park. I live at home with my parents and I pay zero rent, keep, nothing. My only outgoing bill is my mobile phone bill,which has rarely been under three figures (what love does to someone). I never used to stop and think about those less fortunate than I, how do people without a family cope? No house to stay? No certainty of food for the day?
While watching the news and seeing the devastation in Japan, I was upset at the sights I saw and the realisation that a day earlier they had everything, houses, luxuries and happy lives. Now they have nothing, all taken away by the forces of nature. It shook me a little with the realisation that we have no idea what can happen tomorrow. I scanned my room and I have a TV, PS3, Xbox 360, PC, Laptop, 4 iPods, iPad, Sony Reader, about 100 DVDs and 70video games. I would be devastated to lose any of them, a worry to me is to
Here's me worrying about being first in queue for a new release and across the World people who have real worries. It really opened my eyes to the World, to the point that the £40 I had ready to waste on another game I donated to help with the relief effort. Someone else could benefit more from it than me, why waste it on a piece of plastic that will collect dust in a month. I also emptied my online Playstation Network wallet and donated all my gaming funds to the relief effort. Better use for it than wasting it on some download content I won't use.
Since then I have been thinking about issues closer to home like the beggar on the street we all look down on, giving him a few coins. Perhaps it will be spent on drink or drugs but he could be genuine and use the money for himself, a little food or drink. Even the sandwich you are too full to eat that you will throw in the rubbish, why not give it to someone for whom it could be their first bit of food for many days. We are fortunate to not be in his position and living a lonely life where everyone looks down on you like a piece of dirt on the soles of their shoes. If I was in his position I would like to think people would take pity on me and give me some spare change or a little nourishment out of the kindness of their heart and the often lacking human nature of helping your fellow man.
It is common decency to help out our fellow person if we can, something insignificant to us can mean a lot to someone else, whether it be helping an elderly person with a heavy bag of shopping, holding a door open or paying a compliment. It is the simple things that make the most difference, simple and free things which everyone should be doing without thinking.
So next time you see a beggar, someone struggling with their groceries, stop and think if they could use a hand or a few coins from your pocket. You could be making someone's day.
As the phrase went 'in helping others we are helping ourselves' and we are, we become better people for it. It brings a sense of joy that you have helped someone no matter how small. You did something, yes it may be a slight inconvenience given that today everyone is on the go and nobody. Has time for anyone but one day that could easily be you as events that happen more and more regularly go to show. Don't take your life and what you own for granted, one day it can all disappear before you know it.
The time you expect others to help you get back on your feet you may discover a deafening silence. What goes around comes around. If you never help anyone less fortunate, why should you expect help when you need it.
In helping others we help ourselves, never a more truer word spoken.
Thanks for reading.
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